If I date you, it’s not because I’m looking to just not be alone. It’s because I see potential. I plan for the long term, and don’t know how to do it any other way. I’m not going to waste my time on someone that I can’t see myself with down the road. I don’t just want fun, I want stability. I don’t want a fling, I want a courtship leading to a strong relationship. That doesn’t necessarily mean marriage, it just means someone I can see myself not getting sick of or losing my feelings for in a mere months, someone that I can love for a good long time.
People ask me how I’m still single. That’s because I don’t settle, or try without feeling anything. I’d rather save the trouble of getting into a relationship that’s doomed to fail and just not date until I find someone worth fighting for. Maybe that’s because I take these things too seriously. It’s a strength and a flaw. I probably miss out on some amazing times and people, but I can’t help who I am. I’ve just decided to embrace it and not fight it anymore.